Jessica was here for about a week...and somehow despite all the conspiracies (which were definitely *not* devised by me) she made it back home.
But not before we were able to shop for art supplies together.
She got some wondrous tins of fantastic things, and I got some more water color markers, a couple more water color sticks (I needed some greens very much) and a tube of pink water color paint, which also was a serious need.
I discovered that you need at least semi-decent paper for the wc markers or you can just forget it.
These are both from my sketchbook, but I have several types of paper in it.
This is just a sketch-type paper.
This is nicer drawing paper.
Big difference on how the marker worked. I couldn't get any of the lines to disappear on the cheap paper...even just getting pigment to lift was minimal. The nicer paper enabled me to completely obliterate maker lines (my phone thinks I should be talking about market limes, incidentally) with a bonus of very minimal paper buckling.
I haven't tried on actual water color paper, and I am looking forward to seeing how they work there.
Yay fun colored things!!
It was really fun having Jessica here, even if circumstances were such that I basically forgot everything that we were going to do while she was here. We managed to have fun and drink tea and paint and visit dinosaurs and zebras, though. And, I got her hooked on Halo, which she really, really needed in her life.
Poison oak *viciously assaulted me* and *continues to do so to this day*.
It wasn't just a matter of brushing up against it. This particular poison oak had it out for me. I think it was guard oak.
I was on a walk with my fiance, at night, near a golf course. What could go wrong walking paths near a golf course? We were on some hills with trees and bushes and a nice little bike/hike path. We decided to take a little shortcut through the brush to the lower path. I was wearing sandals and shorts.
Someone didn't want us to be by the golf course. Going down the hill, I slipped and fell...grabbing onto foliage, brush rushing in between my toes, stripping leaves and probably making a nice new clear path for someone else to follow.
I didn't think much of it. Until the next day.
Words cannot describe what followed over the next few weeks. Weeks of incredible burning pain and itching and non-stop suffering. Weeks of massive clusters of huge blisters, in between my toes, all the way up my legs to mid-thigh, on my hands and arms, even spreading to a few unrelated areas which I must have touched before washing off the oil. Weeks and weeks and I was fairly convinced that it would *never go away* (and...I was right!).
Despite not having the money for it, I went to both urgent care and the er, and the only relief I was able to find was the discovery that if you immerse itchy skin in really, really, really hot water (hotter than you can stand) for longer than you can possibly stand, the histamine in your cells will be eliminated enough for a short blessed relief of at least the itch.
I needed to do this so often and for so long that my nerves in my hands and my feet no longer function quite as they did before.
Eventually, it had to have run its course, though it took well over a month. I had physical and mental scars for many months after that. I did believe that it was something now belonging to my past.
I was wrong.
The next summer, despite not being out in the wilds at all, I had a violent flare up in July. I could not imagine what it was from, because I knew I had not gotten into anything to cause such a violent allergic reaction, which is what I thought it was at first. Especially odd was that most of it was on the palms of my hands, which is a thicker skin that is not supposed to get such reactions easily if at all. I went to the doctor and they found no reason for it at all. They also found it perplexing that it would be so concentrated in my palms, which is where it looked like it originated from.
The summer after that, again in early July, I had another. Less violent, but very, very present. The doctor did not believe me, but...both of these episodes were a residual reaction to the poison oak.
I've had it every year since. Every summer. It began the beginning of July and through subsequent years moved slightly earlier into June. Now it can occur as early as the beginning of June.
Thankfully, it has gotten calmer over the years, some years slightly more than others, some less to the point that I had hope for a couple of years that it would eventually vanish. But it has not. It has been concentrated in the palms of my hands, though a slight rash will appear elsewhere during years in which the reaction is worse.
Don't get me wrong. This is nothing like that first year. But when it's stronger, it is incredibly annoying. My hands itch and burn and feel stiff and difficult to use. The rash is barely visible normally, unless you look closely and know what to look for. It's easier to see after a hot water treatment, when the rest of my skin will turn pink.
Of course, this year has to be a year in which the reaction is more protracted than normal. Of course.
I have no desire to go golfing at that golf course.
Jessica came across this article,
which is interesting, and we decided to post about it together. As
always, I am probably going to be far more verbose than Jessica, lol.
I want to paraphrase the article, but it's short enough to just read so I'm not going to.
I have to say...in the article, I think that they're kind of splitting
things up (or maybe lumping them together?) to try to say something. I
don't blame people for doing this...it's a common thing and hard to
avoid. People want to categorize things. A term gets applied to a
variety of situations that are tangentially related, but multiple sides of an issue are not explored.
don't think that teaching, or not teaching, sharing is a "gray moral
area" like the author seems to believe. Just because one "policy" does
not apply across the board does not make that subject "morally gray". Welcome to parenthood!
It means that an individual needs to use discernment as to what is
correct in a certain situation. And on top of that, what applies to one
age group does not apply to another.
definitely believe that a lot of people nowadays want us to think that
sharing is very morally gray. On the one hand, there is a sense of
entitlement in society, while on the other hand, it's okay to tell
people that *they* ought to be more charitable. People who have no real morals love to have double standards. But that's another topic.
It concerns me that an "interesting perspective" these days consists of someone having the stance that others are not *guaranteed by right* to take possession of something that someone else has.
This interesting perspective seems quite straightforward to me...
But I don't think that perspective
is necessarily saying "I don't teach my child to share" if by "sharing", you
mean, "I don't teach my child to be thoughtful and caring and charitable
and not possessive and greedy and bratty".
But hey, he got a good-sounding title for his article, right?
are two things going on in the situations that the article mentions,
and these two things need to be covered on both sides.
the one hand, there is the inappropriate behavior and attitude of
thinking you are due something that someone else has, simply because you
the other hand, there is the inappropriate behavior and attitude of not
considering others...specifically, being selfish and greedy and
believing that material possessions are more important than relating
can't teach both things at the same time. And there are different
levels and nuances and situations in which these things apply.
a parent, you ought to be in tune enough to your child to know which
lesson need apply in a certain situation, and in how they are growing in
would never allow my toddler to take something away from someone else.
I would never allow my child of any age to take something away from
someone else. I would never allow (without consequences) my child to
throw a fit or get upset about something they could not have.
the other hand, if my non-toddler is hanging on to something simply
because they want to be a brat and don't want someone else to have it,
then I will likely step in and insist they share, giving appropriate
time to the different parties. But, this is dependent on knowing my child and knowing when they are acting like a selfish brat.
as a parent with multiple children, there are times when I do need to
put a time limit on something so that one child does not monopolize a
favorite item or activity to the exclusion of the others. (Cases like
that, where a child's normally limited attention span is taken over by
some possessive activity, this usually means said activity cannot be all
that healthy in the first place, anyway, and even without competition,
time should be limited.)
really more about learning selfishness vs. selflessness and
understanding the role of possessions in our lives than some glorified
idea of "sharing".
couldn't care less about "sharing" in the sense of how society believes
in it these days. Today, "sharing" is about "everyone having a turn"
or "everyone being able to enjoy this or that" or "everyone having the
same imaginary rights" or "the world belongs to everyone and so we need
to do x, y, and z, because I think that makes the world better for
everyone" or some such nonsense.
People, even children, are not the same and frankly we don't *need* everything to be equal along all lines. "Sharing" and "fairness" and "equality" become annoying buzz words.
sorry. Life is not fair. The world has limited resources and some
have more than others, and for the most part...if you're complaining
because you don't think that things are "fair", then you can just shut
the hell up because I don't care what you think is fair. It's simply
not possible to be "fair" with everyone. One person's idea of fairness
is anything but to another. Fairness doesn't enter into the real world
at large and morality is *not* about being fair. If fairness enters
into a child's relationship with his peers, then this is simply because
there are scenarios when raising children in which we *need* to
establish order and we need to teach certain lessons. More
specifically, in a group setting, fairness is a necessary component of a
closed group of specific individuals, because otherwise the group
cannot work or even abide together. But fairness is a fluid construct
whose rules need to be defined within that group. There are times when
consideration *must* be given to others, and this is especially evident
with multiple children in one family.
that being said, charity is one of the most valuable things we can
attempt to instill in our children. Insisting on "fairness" or
"sharing" is not going to give our children charitable hearts, but it is
a necessary step to teach that when you deal with others, you consider
their feelings and wants and desires. Children have very basic
understandings of the deeper mechanics of our hearts, and they need
concrete, real-world examples to deal with.
there is a genuine need, or lack, it most assuredly ought to be met by
another in position to do so. Not because of some obligation instilled
upon us by our authority figures, not because our culture tells us it is
the right thing to do, but because it is in our hearts to do so.
We do not have control over our children's hearts. But we can do our best to guide them.
Face does not share his post. But no one else wants it, anyway.
Shibe was very happy when we shared the remnants of our corn on the cob.
Oh, the timing.
was just finishing this post up when I heard a commotion downstairs.
My four-year-old daughter had something that my two-year-old daughter
wanted. My two-year-old ripped it from her sister's hands. Then, my
four-year-old screamed bloody murder and ripped it back.