...then I totally embrace being a mean and cruel person with no apologies whatsoever.
My sweet neighbor stopped by to give us some cuppy cakes. She is a little younger than me, I think, and she has two young boys...ages one and a half and approaching four.
Oh my gosh for boys.
My eldest is a boy. But he was never like these boys, ever. Don't get me wrong. My son can be wild and crazy with the best of them. But either we were blessed with a personality that is at least slightly calmer, or else we did something right in raising him, or a combination of the both. I'm going with the combination.
My neighbor's sons are both still young and I am certain they will grow into courteous young men. (That's not even sarcasm, by the way, I really expect they will.) But at the moment, they are *wild*. Getting into things, not listening, hitting, etc etc. And their mother really tries to deal with it.
But her method is...try to talk sweetly to them, informing them of correct behavior.
I'm sorry...but that *does not work*.
It doesn't; not at this age. Eventually, you can reason (sort of) with older children. At this age, it doesn't phase them in any way. Except that the eldest would drop on the floor, avoiding eye contact and completely ignoring his mother. And she would just take this. Because what else could her method possibly allow?
Totally not in my play book.
She was asking me how it is I can paint and leave all of my art supplies out within reach of children. I can see how she would be mystified by this.
My children learn young. Very young. If a whap on the butt makes me a mean and cruel parent, then by all means I will be mean and cruel. It gets the job done. It gets it done quickly and efficiently. We can move on with our lives. We don't have to drag out the punishment, which again they do not understand at a young age, and we are *done* dealing with the situation (though repeat lessons are needed, the repetition is far less than with other, more "kind" methods). Drama still arises frequently, especially from certain quarters, but I assure you it does not last long.